Gain Confidence As A Psychic Reader

How can you gain confidence as a psychic reader? Having anxiety before giving a psychic reading is perfectly normal. In fact, I would be worried if you weren’t anxious. Fear shows that you are excited, nervous, and eager to go in and do a good job. You want to please your clients; you pray that their reading fills them with hope for the future and happiness. Experiencing nerves before a reading is a positive sign. 

Sometimes, however, your nerves can be crippling. You may suffer from imposter syndrome and, ironically, dread doing what you love. In that case, I have compiled a list of tips for things you can try if self-doubt has frozen you into inaction. 

Relate To Others

I have been reading most of my life and for over 20 years. I am a Gypsy; my family are famous fortune tellers, and my gifts were encouraged when I was growing up. I have read celebrities, politicians, sportspeople, and had seekers from all over the world. At 24, I won an international award, Young Tarosophist of the Year, and I have been on the radio, in magazines, and on TV. 

I also shit myself before every reading. 

Yes, some would say that I have everything going for me. Most readers believe that I should be rolling in self-assurance. The reality is, that I still get that niggle of anxiety before every reading. Pretty certificates hanging on my wall do not shield me from self-doubt. At one point, I too struggle horribly and didn’t know how to gain confidence as a psychic reader.

I welcome my anxiety because I know it is a sign that I care about what I do, that I am connecting with my seeker, with spirit, etc. However, my anxiety has reduced with time, experience, and knowledge because I know that other readers have the same feelings I do. 

One way to ease your anxiety is to talk about it with other readers; I guarantee that they will relate and make you feel better.  Hearing the stories of other psychics, mediums and fortune tellers can help not just beginners but more advanced readers with their confidence. 

Realize That You Care

“Do not fear that you are doing a bad job. If you were doing a bad job, you would not care enough to worry about it. Anyone who does do a bad job usually always thinks that they are amazing. Anyone who is great at this often thinks that they are shit.”

Early in my career, these words were said to me by a fantastic Scottish medium. The medium, Gordon, explained that readers who stress about their readings are the types of readers who care about satisfying their clients. If you’re getting nervous, it means that you’re passionate about what you do and should be in this industry. 

Know Yourself To Gain Confidence As a Psychic Reader

When I was younger, I had a lot of reader anxiety, which (I now know) stemmed from the fact that I didn’t know who I was, what type of reader I was, or anything. Being unaware of my strengths and weaknesses caused me to feel chaotic because I didn’t know what to expect from a reading, how to advertise myself, and how I managed to ‘perform.’ I literally just went in there, connected to something, and began reading. 

As I got older, I pinpointed my reading style and worked out which spirits I connected with during readings. I increased my spiritual awareness by forming a personal relationship with spirit and mastered a form of divination, which was perfect for predictive, spirit-driven readings (Lenormand). 

If you do not know yourself, then it’s hard to read someone else. Part of you senses that something is ‘off’ in a way, and this causes anxiety. Define your style and work on that, your strengths, and your weaknesses, and this will increase your confidence and bring your readings under control. 

Meet Yourself To Gain Confidence As a Psychic Reader

A lot of reader anxiety comes from self-doubt. You may have ‘performed’ well a million times, but that doesn’t stop you from telling yourself that this time, you will fail. Every reading feels like a new reading and you’re stuck because you do not know how to gain confidence as a psychic reader.

In essence, this is a pretty flawed way to think. As a reader, you probably know this but just cannot break the habit of thinking this way. I recently read something, however, which gave me something to consider.

The book theorized that there are three layers of the self. There is your outer layer which you project to others, your inner fears and self-doubt (which is a result of criticisms) and your core, which is your true self, which is deep inside of you. 

The true self is said to be where all of your strengths and positives lie and which you can utilize. When applied to psychic readings, there is an interesting question which you can ask yourself to discover your true reading skill level:

“What kind of reader are you when nobody is watching and judging you?”

Probably a good one! You’ve had psychic experiences. You live for Lenormand Tarot, astrology, mediumship, etc., not just when reading but when in the shower and after dropping the kids off at school or while walking to the shops. You may have a Tarot journal and enjoy making entries. You have many books and most likely have purchased your fair share of decks. You love spirituality. 

Once you align your true self with your everyday self and get rid of any self-doubt, nothing is stopping you from being this confident reader constantly. In fact, nothing is stopping you from being amazing; deep down, you are already amazing! You just need tools to help you increase in confidence. Here is a visualization for aligning with your true, confident self:

1. Imagine what your true self is like. They are a confident, knowledgeable reader who can handle any situation which is thrown at them.

2. Imagine your true self is in front of you. Sense their calm and lack of reader anxiety.

3. Step into your true self. Become them. Feel their confidence, their self-belief, and any other positives that they display so naturally.

Try this visualization every day until you feel that you have truly become your true self.

Know That You Love What You Do

In the book “Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother,” the author (Amy Chua) makes the interesting point that no one likes anything until they are not good at it. I don’t necessarily believe this in all cases, but I do believe this point:

“No one loves anything which they are terrible at.”

Do you love reading? I mean, do you love it? You do, or you wouldn’t put so much pressure on yourself to do well. Therefore, you must have some ability; otherwise, why would you love doing something you were terrible at executing? 

Give Yourself Credit 

In the spiritual industry, there seems to be an air of negativity attached to thinking that you are good at something. It is more fashionable to point out your weaknesses than your strengths. The need to be overtly humble traps readers into feeling guilty about taking any pleasure from being praised. 

Don’t worry; you’re not going to turn into a raving narcissist by acknowledging you’re a half-decent reader. After all, people who have an inflamed self-image do not worry about having one. Those who do not see fault in themselves are not self-critical; if you’re worried about becoming big-headed, that’s a sign that you’re not! 

It is entirely fine for positive feedback to build your confidence. When you do something right, give yourself a pat on the back. Tell people about the excellent review you got, advertise yourself. Let others praise you for your hard work. 

Note Your Achievements 

You should keep a diary or notebook to remind yourself of all of the good things you have achieved. Got a great review? Write that down. Does someone makes a great comment? Write that down. Did you overcome your fears, and it wasn’t that bad? Take note of that. 

Anytime you find yourself falling into the trap of worrying about giving a reading, take out your Achievement Folder and remind yourself of all of the positive things you have done and praise you have got. Even if they are just little comments someone makes, they can mean a lot when your confidence is at a low and you’re reading in 10 minutes. Reminding yourself of your strengths will help you to gain confidence as a psychic reader.

Control Your Empathy To Gain Confidence As a Psychic Reader

Many readers consider themselves in tune with other people’s emotions but do not consider that they may be picking up on the seeker’s anxiety. Have you ever thought that some of the anxiety which you feel is coming from the person receiving the reading as opposed to your own feelings? 

I notice that when I travel to some places, my anxiety increases unexplainably. I live in West Lothian (Scotland) but also extremely close to the capital of Edinburgh. It is relatively uncommon in Edinburgh to let a reader into your home, many people who live there visit the reader’s homes or centers. 

Those who have never had a reader come into their home are more anxious about letting a reader into their personal space for various reasons; one of the reasons being safety. I have realized that in these cases, my anxiety increases because I have empathized with the seeker.

It is, therefore, a good idea to try some blocking exercises before you meet a seeker. If you’re an empath, try to block their energy until the actual reading begins; it helps to elevate a lot of the stress associated with giving readings to strangers.

It also can be comforting to know that they are just afraid of you as you are of them! Remind yourself of this if you start to become self-critical. 

That is how you can gain confidence as a psychic reader. It is important to note that reader anxiety does elevate with experience. I wish the best of luck to anyone who tries any of these strategies.

If you’re interested, I also have a free Lenormand for Beginners Guide. You can download that guide here

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Lenormand Card Readers

Are you a Lenormand card reader? Are you interested in learning some statistical facts about Lenormand card readers? Would you like to read some information about the gender, location, and professionalism of the Lenormand fortune-telling population? Are you a Lenormand card reader who is dying to know if your experiences as a Lenormand card reader are typical? 

If this sounds like you, read on! 

In August 2018, I conducted a survey of 947 divination practitioners and asked them about their likes, dislikes, and experiences. Lenormand made up a big part of the survey, and today I am going to reveal the results. 

So, here they are, statistical facts about Lenormand card readers: 

Where Do Lenormand Card Readers Live?

Lenormand readers are more likely to live in the US, Africa, India, and Islamic Asian countries than diviners who do not practice Lenormand. I think these results reflect the growing popularity of Lenormand.

Surprisingly, Lenormand readers are slightly less likely to live in the UK and other European countries when compared to other methods of divination (such as Tarot). I am still working out why this might be but I think it is quite a shocking find considering that it has been assumed by the Lenormand community that most readers are living in these parts of the world.

What Is Their Gender?

Lenormand readers are twice as likely to be male than readers who do not practice Lenormand. One of the reasons for this may be because many of the ‘flag wavers’ for Lenormand are male. A strong male presence in a niche divination community inspires other men to join the party – this is a theme which I have found to be true in not just the Lenormand community, but other divination niches such as the bone-casting community.  

Lenormand readers are also less likely to identify as being non-gendered, genderqueer, or gender-neutral – the more experienced someone is at reading Lenormand, the less likely they are to be such.

What’s Their Experience? 

A large percentage of Lenormand readers (21%) consider themselves to be advanced readers. This is another surprising statistic as it is assumed in the Lenormand community that practically all English speaking readers are beginners.

Lenormand readers are generally more experienced with divination than people who do not read Lenormand. Nearly one-third of Lenormand readers have been reading for over twenty years. 

It is not common for Lenormand to be a diviner’s first method of divination (more than half began their divination journey with Tarot.) The fact that Lenormand readers have often started with another method of divination means that most readers have a considerable amount of time between when they start reading and when they discover Lenormand – this is why Lenormand readers are more likely to have decades of experience with divination. 

What Types of Support Networks Do Lenormand Card Readers Have? 

Lenormand readers have stronger support networks. The friends and family members of Lenormand readers are more supportive than the rest of the general divination population’s friends and family are.

Lenormand readers are statistically less likely to have close relatives who are diviners, but more likely to have ancestors who practice divination.

Are They Professional Diviners? 

Lenormand readers are a lot more likely to be professional readers, and they are more likely to build sustainable businesses than diviners who do not read Lenormand. In fact, Lenormand readers are more than twice as likely to make a full-time living than readers who do not read Lenormand.

The Big Divination Survey found that 77% of all readers who make a full-time living from their readings are Lenormand readers, and 66% make at least a part-time living. 

It is possible that Lenormand readers make more money because they have supportive family members and family. There is a very strong correlation between peer support and success as a psychic reader. 

Another reason why Lenormand readers are more likely to run successful businesses is that they read for prediction; predictive divination is an extremely profitable skill set. 

Do Lenormand Card Readers Want To Improve Their Businesses? 

Despite being more successful, Lenormand readers are less likely to want to learn more about business. One of the reasons for this may be because they are already doing well so do not feel the need to learn more about these topics. They would rather spend their time learning more about how to improve their skills.

Is Lenormand Growing In Popularity? 

Yes! Lenormand has grown (and will continue to grow) in popularity. 

Only a few short years ago, there weren’t any Lenormand books or decks, and only a handful of Lenormand resources available in English. Now, Lenormand has boomed in popularity thanks to an increase in the public interest and English resources.  

Many readers are attracted to Lenormand’s ability to make specific and accurate predictions about love, career, and life. The Big Divination Survey revealed that 77% of diviners had a high interest in learning how to read Lenormand cards; that’s more than the number of diviners who were interested in Astrology, Numerology, or any of the methods of divination which use crystals. 

So, that is it for the statistical facts about Lenormand card readers! 

I also have a free Lenormand for Beginners Guide. You can download that guide here

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