How can you gain confidence as a psychic reader? Having anxiety before giving a psychic reading is perfectly normal. In fact, I would be worried if you weren’t anxious. Fear shows that you are excited, nervous, and eager to go in and do a good job. You want to please your clients; you pray that their reading fills them with hope for the future and happiness. Experiencing nerves before a reading is a positive sign.
Sometimes, however, your nerves can be crippling. You may suffer from imposter syndrome and, ironically, dread doing what you love. In that case, I have compiled a list of tips for things you can try if self-doubt has frozen you into inaction.
Relate To Others
I have been reading most of my life and for over 20 years. I am a Gypsy; my family are famous fortune tellers, and my gifts were encouraged when I was growing up. I have read celebrities, politicians, sportspeople, and had seekers from all over the world. At 24, I won an international award, Young Tarosophist of the Year, and I have been on the radio, in magazines, and on TV.
I also shit myself before every reading.
Yes, some would say that I have everything going for me. Most readers believe that I should be rolling in self-assurance. The reality is, that I still get that niggle of anxiety before every reading. Pretty certificates hanging on my wall do not shield me from self-doubt. At one point, I too struggle horribly and didn’t know how to gain confidence as a psychic reader.
I welcome my anxiety because I know it is a sign that I care about what I do, that I am connecting with my seeker, with spirit, etc. However, my anxiety has reduced with time, experience, and knowledge because I know that other readers have the same feelings I do.
One way to ease your anxiety is to talk about it with other readers; I guarantee that they will relate and make you feel better. Hearing the stories of other psychics, mediums and fortune tellers can help not just beginners but more advanced readers with their confidence.
Realize That You Care
“Do not fear that you are doing a bad job. If you were doing a bad job, you would not care enough to worry about it. Anyone who does do a bad job usually always thinks that they are amazing. Anyone who is great at this often thinks that they are shit.”
Early in my career, these words were said to me by a fantastic Scottish medium. The medium, Gordon, explained that readers who stress about their readings are the types of readers who care about satisfying their clients. If you’re getting nervous, it means that you’re passionate about what you do and should be in this industry.
Know Yourself To Gain Confidence As a Psychic Reader
When I was younger, I had a lot of reader anxiety, which (I now know) stemmed from the fact that I didn’t know who I was, what type of reader I was, or anything. Being unaware of my strengths and weaknesses caused me to feel chaotic because I didn’t know what to expect from a reading, how to advertise myself, and how I managed to ‘perform.’ I literally just went in there, connected to something, and began reading.
As I got older, I pinpointed my reading style and worked out which spirits I connected with during readings. I increased my spiritual awareness by forming a personal relationship with spirit and mastered a form of divination, which was perfect for predictive, spirit-driven readings (Lenormand).
If you do not know yourself, then it’s hard to read someone else. Part of you senses that something is ‘off’ in a way, and this causes anxiety. Define your style and work on that, your strengths, and your weaknesses, and this will increase your confidence and bring your readings under control.
Meet Yourself To Gain Confidence As a Psychic Reader
A lot of reader anxiety comes from self-doubt. You may have ‘performed’ well a million times, but that doesn’t stop you from telling yourself that this time, you will fail. Every reading feels like a new reading and you’re stuck because you do not know how to gain confidence as a psychic reader.
In essence, this is a pretty flawed way to think. As a reader, you probably know this but just cannot break the habit of thinking this way. I recently read something, however, which gave me something to consider.
The book theorized that there are three layers of the self. There is your outer layer which you project to others, your inner fears and self-doubt (which is a result of criticisms) and your core, which is your true self, which is deep inside of you.
The true self is said to be where all of your strengths and positives lie and which you can utilize. When applied to psychic readings, there is an interesting question which you can ask yourself to discover your true reading skill level:
“What kind of reader are you when nobody is watching and judging you?”
Probably a good one! You’ve had psychic experiences. You live for Lenormand Tarot, astrology, mediumship, etc., not just when reading but when in the shower and after dropping the kids off at school or while walking to the shops. You may have a Tarot journal and enjoy making entries. You have many books and most likely have purchased your fair share of decks. You love spirituality.
Once you align your true self with your everyday self and get rid of any self-doubt, nothing is stopping you from being this confident reader constantly. In fact, nothing is stopping you from being amazing; deep down, you are already amazing! You just need tools to help you increase in confidence. Here is a visualization for aligning with your true, confident self:
1. Imagine what your true self is like. They are a confident, knowledgeable reader who can handle any situation which is thrown at them.
2. Imagine your true self is in front of you. Sense their calm and lack of reader anxiety.
3. Step into your true self. Become them. Feel their confidence, their self-belief, and any other positives that they display so naturally.
Try this visualization every day until you feel that you have truly become your true self.
Know That You Love What You Do
In the book “Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother,” the author (Amy Chua) makes the interesting point that no one likes anything until they are not good at it. I don’t necessarily believe this in all cases, but I do believe this point:
“No one loves anything which they are terrible at.”
Do you love reading? I mean, do you love it? You do, or you wouldn’t put so much pressure on yourself to do well. Therefore, you must have some ability; otherwise, why would you love doing something you were terrible at executing?
Give Yourself Credit
In the spiritual industry, there seems to be an air of negativity attached to thinking that you are good at something. It is more fashionable to point out your weaknesses than your strengths. The need to be overtly humble traps readers into feeling guilty about taking any pleasure from being praised.
Don’t worry; you’re not going to turn into a raving narcissist by acknowledging you’re a half-decent reader. After all, people who have an inflamed self-image do not worry about having one. Those who do not see fault in themselves are not self-critical; if you’re worried about becoming big-headed, that’s a sign that you’re not!
It is entirely fine for positive feedback to build your confidence. When you do something right, give yourself a pat on the back. Tell people about the excellent review you got, advertise yourself. Let others praise you for your hard work.
Note Your Achievements
You should keep a diary or notebook to remind yourself of all of the good things you have achieved. Got a great review? Write that down. Does someone makes a great comment? Write that down. Did you overcome your fears, and it wasn’t that bad? Take note of that.
Anytime you find yourself falling into the trap of worrying about giving a reading, take out your Achievement Folder and remind yourself of all of the positive things you have done and praise you have got. Even if they are just little comments someone makes, they can mean a lot when your confidence is at a low and you’re reading in 10 minutes. Reminding yourself of your strengths will help you to gain confidence as a psychic reader.
Control Your Empathy To Gain Confidence As a Psychic Reader
Many readers consider themselves in tune with other people’s emotions but do not consider that they may be picking up on the seeker’s anxiety. Have you ever thought that some of the anxiety which you feel is coming from the person receiving the reading as opposed to your own feelings?
I notice that when I travel to some places, my anxiety increases unexplainably. I live in West Lothian (Scotland) but also extremely close to the capital of Edinburgh. It is relatively uncommon in Edinburgh to let a reader into your home, many people who live there visit the reader’s homes or centers.
Those who have never had a reader come into their home are more anxious about letting a reader into their personal space for various reasons; one of the reasons being safety. I have realized that in these cases, my anxiety increases because I have empathized with the seeker.
It is, therefore, a good idea to try some blocking exercises before you meet a seeker. If you’re an empath, try to block their energy until the actual reading begins; it helps to elevate a lot of the stress associated with giving readings to strangers.
It also can be comforting to know that they are just afraid of you as you are of them! Remind yourself of this if you start to become self-critical.
That is how you can gain confidence as a psychic reader. It is important to note that reader anxiety does elevate with experience. I wish the best of luck to anyone who tries any of these strategies.
If you’re interested, I also have a free Lenormand for Beginners Guide. You can download that guide here.
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